Self-confidence is defined by Merriam Webster as a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgement.
So, to put it simply, self-confidence is being able to trust yourself.
When you trust yourself and embody self-confidence, that begins to radiate from you and onto those around you.
So, how can you become a more confident person?
Here Are 7 Ways to Start…
I. Get Things Done
Self Confidence is built on accomplishment and being able to trust yourself so take the time to see things through and then celebrate those small wins so you have lots to draw upon when your confidence is being tested. In essence, what I’m saying is that you don’t have to strive for perfection to gain confidence, you just need to get things done. Remember, done is better than perfect.
When we follow through and display consistency to ourselves, we can see start to see ourselves as trustworthy which turns into confidence. Think about it, it’s really easy to trust someone or something that is dependable. The more dependable you can become, the more confident you can be in yourself! It’s really that simple and that challenging all at the same time.
III. Develop or Hone a Skill
Sometimes we can lack the confidence we desire because we aren’t skilled enough in an area. If you’re struggling with imposter syndrome, it may be because you need to spend some time learning your craft and becoming exceptionally good at what you do. When you are a beginner in anything, it is hard to have confidence because you just don’t know what you should be doing. But, when you’ve spent time learning your craft, skill, or trade, then confidence finds it way to you much easier. And it basically becomes second nature.
IV. Understand Your Value
When you know how valuable you really are – you will become more and more confident in who you are. The fact that there is no one else like you on the planet is pretty special and actually a big deal. The challenges you’ve faced, the experiences you’ve gone through, and the relationships you’ve had have all helped in shaping who you are today! You’re kind of a big deal! You just need to remember that!
V. Speak Positive Affirmations Daily
What we say to ourselves plays a big role in how we view ourselves. Do you think you’re smart? Beautiful? Kind? Enough? Funny? Worthy? If you’ve got some negative feelings about yourself and then turn those thoughts into negative words that you’re saying to yourself, then you’re confidence is sure to be shaken, if not destroyed. While others words can cut deep at times, the words we speak to ourselves… well, about ourselves is really critical because we can’t get away from ourselves. You can remove negative people from your life but you can’t separate yourself from yourself! So, learning to speak positive words and phrases (also known as affirmations) to yourself is more important than you probably ever dreamed of. Be kind to yourself! Because what you say to yourself is what you’ll start to believe about yourself.
VI. Like the Way You Look
You need to take care of yourself! Mama, I know that you want to take care of those kids, but you also need to take care of yourself. While living in loungewear might be comfortable, it’s not always the best confidence booster. I want to challenge you to get up and get dressed like you had an important meeting with your boss or a client. I can guarantee you that if you practice this technique of liking the way you look because you’re getting “dressed for success” that your confidence will rise higher and higher. And if no one has told you this today, I want you to know that you’re beautiful!
VII. Like the Way You Feel
When we like the way we feel internally, it can translate into us being more confident in the way that we carry ourselves. Liking the way we feel is all about our health. The way we feel stems from our mindset, our emotional well-being, physical and spiritual health. When you entire being feels good from the inside, it shines on the outside and everyone is able to see your confidence. So, take some time to move your body for 30 minutes or so every day! Going through a tough time? Talk with a friend, a therapist, your pastor or maybe even your hairdresser! Write down your feelings and what you’re grateful for. Pray. Rest. And enjoy this life you’ve been given. It’s such a beautiful gift.